And by anniversary, I'm refering to any once-a-year commemoration.
What is it about the day you were born that makes it special N years later? I mean, yes, commemoration, and yes, remembering to honor each other, but if we pour too much effort into that one day, aren't we just trying to make up for not doing enough the rest of the year?
Another phenomenon about these days that makes no sense to me is the before-only mentality. How is it that advertising can "put us in the Christmas spirit" for almost two months ahead (I saw Christmas lights at retailers before Halloween) yet all trace of Christmas is gone by 9 a.m. December 26? The major exception I've seen to this is birthdays for adults (and some teens). Oh, and births, for obvious reasons. Am I not allowed to keep the Christmas Spirit in the week after? Perhaps that warm fuzzy glow would discourage me from attending the post Christmas sales.
And then there's New Years. Is it just me, or does the whole idea of a New Years Resolution sound an awful lot like the Enrollment Window for insurance and withholding at work? Get your form in on time, or wait until next year! OK, it's a new year and a new chance, but you should be able to make resolutions any day of the year. The idea that the first is the only (or best) day for making a new resolution only makes us feel guilty the rest of the year for missing the opportunity.
And what a crappy time of year for making change-of-habits decisions! (Both for tax withholding and for personal growth.) We've just come off a heavily commercialized time of year, we're guilted on account of eating too much, spending too much, or being too selfish, and we focus on those things. A resolution should be a result of thoughtful introspection, a heartfelt examination of where we are and where we want to be, not biased by recent events. If you're not ready to make such a decision on Jan 1, that shouldn't force you to wait a whole year.
My new years resolution, therefore, is to never have another new years resolution.